Thursday, September 06, 2007


"Style may be on the surface, but you can be deep and still have some." Clarissa Gough

I came across this quote in my day planner the other day and it totally made me laugh. I have to say- I absolutely agree. I have had experiences in my life in which this judgement has plainly been made on me. "She cares about her clothes- she must be shallow." And while to some degree that can be a true statement towards a few people who tend to get a little too caught up in the whole ordeal... who's to say that because somebody cares about their appearance, that automtically makes them shallow?

My sister called me for some style advice this morning, is this because I am the shallow sister? I think not. I think it's because I have fun with style, and i have a little style, and I care about details in styling. My stylish friends are not my most shallow friends, nor are my not so stylish friends any deeper than the others.

I will admit, it can be a lame interest considering that it is pretty much altogether unimportant in the grand scheme of life, but so are a lot of things that we don't care any less about. Have any of you felt like people have judged you as "shallow" because you care about how you look?


Blogger brittany said...

I'm not sure if I have enough style for that, but I have been judged as snobby because I'm shy, and that can be really frustrating, too! You're definately NOT shallow and you definately are super cute and have great style. Thanks for the help earlier:) I'm off to shop!

2:59 PM  
Blogger Abby said...

I think I would be flattered if someone thought I was stylish enough for it to interfere with my depth. Does that make sense? I'm embarrassed to say I get calls for style, and I don't even think I am that stylish myself. Does that mean the people who call me are in real trouble? I don't make the depth judgement on others, if that answers anything. Oh, and a friend (?) once told me, "when I met you I thought you were a snob bc you had blonde hair." How lame is that?

3:31 PM  
Blogger Anne Lee said...

I can relate- "Operation Turn into a Hot Mama" has begun, and just because I want to start doing my hair, getting a few new clothes, and exercising whilst my baby is in the NICU doesn't make me shallow, it just means that I want to take care of myself. Shoot, if I'm shallow, I'm shallow because I won't shop at WalMart, not because I'm a rockin' hot babe! :o)

4:18 PM  
Blogger Paige said...

Um, yes they would be right. I just wish I could be more stylish, even if it makes me more shallow!

4:29 PM  
Blogger Jeni said...

I wonder about this too. I live in on-campus housing which translates to "poor, low or no-income students" so generally people wear t-shirts and jeans and flip-flops that they've had forever, which I think is great, don't get me wrong. I tried to be a t-shirt and jeans kind of girl and wanted to be, but I'm not. I love to shop. I tend to get dressed up any time I leave the house, (which I know is silly, but whatever) so I often wonder if I'm being judged for being vain or a shop-a-holic or shallow. I try to tell myself, "I don't care what they think", but I do, which sucks. I guess all it comes down to is, Be Yourself and people will love you for you (even if at first they judge you before they get to know you).

10:26 PM  
Blogger Meriel Frandsen said...

I agree. Is it a problem that I love beautiful things? Is it shallow that my hobbies involve making things with beauty and style? I think that it's a whole other genre of things to be interested in, just as much as some other people get into sci-fi trekky stuff or politics.

Let's all keep perspective on keeping balance in life, but in the meantime, I wanna have fun!

7:28 AM  
Blogger Jillian said...

what if we do care about what we wear, we are really shallow, but yet deep at the same time.... Im talking about, uh, my friend....

2:53 PM  
Blogger Brooke said...

I am a child of the 80's, so I don't think my opinions about style count. But I think being stylish is a form of creativity and talent. I admire people who have style, not for the $$ side of it, but for the creativity it shows they have.

3:46 PM  
Blogger TRICIA said...

Just so you know. I buy outfits now that I think our Krista Tanner worthy. I love your style. I can't wait to drop 50lbs. and then get pregos so that I can wear all of your STYLISH, trendy, creative, funky, cute, clothes!!!

9:13 PM  
Blogger Jenny & Wyatt Dannels said...

What did you end up deciding on your stroller??

12:03 AM  
Blogger emma jo said...

It just takes extra talent to be a deep thinker AND stylish...and the people who aren't are bitter. I admire the people who can pull off both...they are my kind of people....meaning I like to look to them for advice and inspiration...I am only one of them, on occasion.

10:53 AM  
Blogger Kara said...

One thing I can say is that if I step out of the house ever looking even slightly put together I get about 19 comments asking why I'm all dressed up. So this must be some sort of indication on how stylish I really am. But I totally understand what you're saying. Heaven forbid a stylish girl is smart and athletic, it's incomprehensible!

1:09 PM  

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